But in others, free use is perfectly vanilla. In some cases, free use takes place within a BDSM dynamic, and will make use of kinkier things like bondage, sensory deprivation and even other people to enhance the fantasy. As many people in the free-use world point out, the term can mean almost anything so long as there are elements of easy access and the freedom to use or be used. Obviously, there are a million shades of grey in between. More often than not, the partner getting used doesn’t really react generally speaking, the fantasy is more about being a consensual object than an eager, thirsty partner. A third, more common iteration involves one person going about their daily business - cooking, cleaning, reading, texting, working and snoozing - as their partner has their way with them. In more mild dynamics, the so-called “use” is private, monogamous and only in reference to a limited number of activities like vaginal sex or a.m. In more intense cases, one partner solely exists to be had sex with, and anyone can walk up to them, at any time, and do what they want, no holds barred (performance artist Milo Moiré’s “ Mirror Box ” is a prime example).
